Our Kids Are Free.

Tyler is 20, Kaitlyn 17, Brooklyn 15 and Travis 14 and reflecting on this, I can't help but think.... Our kids are perfect. I'm biased, sure, but also correct. Lindsey and I never changed who we are to appeal to societal norms or religious commons or…

Sammy The Cat

Sammy was a black cat. Maybe ours, maybe the neighborhood's. I never got clarity on that. What I know is he greeted me every day in the backyard. Sometime around first grade, Sammy froze to death outside. I remember crying. Not the performative kind. The kind where your…

3 Years Later. Ghosts Again, Not Yet.

0:00 /3:01 1× 3 years ago: Continued from last year ---- Mom, with every breath I still take, I've come to recognize that I recall your presence at the time the heavens were ready, 3 years ago. I want you to know that I can wait…

The Station

Three years ago today, I had a near death experience. I've written about it every year since. Sewing quilts of memories, that is all we leave behind, the station is coming. This poem below, The Station, is an altered version I wrote, of a poem I discovered in…

The Universe Is Vast

Interstellar didn't help. The universe stays unknowable and I've stopped asking it to be otherwise. Vast doesn't begin. Complex insults it. Somewhere out there something moves that has never needed a name. I don't need to know how. I don't…

The Path Was Just a Suggestion

I color outside the lines. It's always been this way. I never understood why other people's lines were something I had to follow. Society said X. I just did Y. Two weeks into my LDS mission in 2000, my mission president told me I was unorthodox.…

Book a Demo? No.

SaaS with "Book a Demo" instead of pricing is worse than used car salesmen. At least the dealer lets me test drive it. And I know the price walking in. Yes, I get it. Pricing is complicated. Value-based. Depends on seats, usage, integrations, the phase of the moon,…

I Have The Best Life

1 Wife, 4 Kids, 3 Dogs, 6 Chickens, 1 Cat, 1 Cow (soon), 45 Black Shirts, 2 Pairs Of Red Wing Boots, 6 SF Giants Hats, 2988493 Empty Liquid Death Cans. I grew up in an open home. Talk about anything, anytime. I didn't. Who wants to discuss…

Deftones Are Life

There's something about this band that will forever pull me back to the 90s when I discovered them. I don't understand how each album managed to capture exactly how my life felt at the time of release. One of the underlying themes across their catalog, when…

No Ghosts In My Closet

For some reason, regardless of the relationship, everyone has always known everything about me. I don't go around volunteering all my stories, but I also don't lie when asked. Never have. I've always struggled with liars. Not even the big lies. The obvious ones.…